Posted Tuesday , July 15, 2008 at 22:53 : (Abhinav Goel)
While it should be appreciated that stress levels in children have come to focus at schools, it is more important to train the students to handle stress rather than shield them from it, because eventually they have to go out in the world and face life's challenges.
My parents always taught me to accept failure gracefully whenever I went for any competition, along with their best wishes. So I knew that it's not such a big deal to lose. Another way of looking at it is that we attach too much importance to the hype and prize of the competition, more than to what we can learn from it.
I'm a student myself and have been on TV, though not to a reality show of such character. The exposure is definitely enriching, so I think preventing students from participating is depriving them of this exposure, which supplements one's personality, confidence etc. up to a great extent.
I guess we must be prepared rather than scared to face the big bad world.
Posted Tuesday , July 15, 2008 at 21:24 : (shamueel)
Putting the blame on reality show is not enough parents should teach children to accept failure & learn from it and move forward as failure is not the end of life.
Posted Tuesday , July 15, 2008 at 19:25 : (Chiru)
Participants and thier family/ ies VOLUNTEER to these shows. No one holds a gun at thier temple to participate. The emphasis lay completely on participants. So let the blame game stop.
Posted Tuesday , July 15, 2008 at 19:22 : (Anwesha)
In the Trap of Make-Believe World
Hungama Unlimited in all the channels. Be it Hindi or Bengali, search for 'real talent' is on. And Shinjinis are victims of that. A monster called 'Competition' destroying the childhood! So, the puzzle of Make Believe world is making the life difficult for the children.
Thus, the questions arise, 'Who has the power to snatch the childhood ?'
But the very problem lies in the system...If a girl comes first in an essay competition, Parents want media coverage...so the parents don't think twice before they throw their kids in the helm of make believe world! In a word, they need publicity too! "This is nothing but sophisticated child labour" is what Sociologist Nandini Sardersai thinks and parents are making use of it for climbing up the social ladder and bank balance!
And not to mention, all the judges are maestros! So whatever they say, treated as 'Vedbakya' (Chaste Truth). How they take the decisions (not all) is an open secret! If anyone 'fails to perform' the judges are saying in a manner as if 'takiking participation is a SIN.' And parents are accepting those comments as their failure and discouraging the kids and scolding them for not being 'good enough!'
Thus, both the Parents and Organizers are kiiling the 'Natural Innocense' of the kids. Even the winners become frustrated easily as they are not getting the limelight after 3-4 months. So in their formative years the kids neither can give any attention to their studies nor to any other things which they like. This may be resulted in a 'birth of un productive and unhealthy generation' who can savage the society. According to Dr. Sanjay Chugh, ''this impacted on the psycho-emotional growth of the kids. May be, he or she didn't react on her 'failure' at the very moment, but the trauma keeps ticking him/her in the subconscious being which ultimately gives birth to frustrated, unconfident, suicide prone generation.
Even if we agree, that reality shows provide a platform to the young talents, then how should the Shinjinis be protected? Parents have to be SUPPORTIVE, encouraging. They need to say their kids, ''Arrre, this nothing but an experience AND NOT THE END OF THE ROAD!!'' But unfortunately enough, parents are doing just the opposite!
Though some schools have banned in taking part in the Reality Shows, which is good enough to keep Innocence alive among the kids.'
Thus, Parents ambition, the fear of 'not becoming the first' and 'not able to deliver the Best' – these threesome attacks have thwarted the naturality, intelligence and innocent of a generation- A Generation who is gradually forgetting to Dream...
Thus the question, aren't we all responsible for the Shinjinis?
Posted Tuesday , July 15, 2008 at 23:43 : (Subharnab Majumdar)
I think Reality shows are good, but ones with children from schools should be less in number as they might not have reached the maturity level to handle reality shows and the outside world.
About the other reality shows, I have to say that Rejection in real life is a lot more harsh and it is better that one is prepared for it thru reality shows. Also one might spend their entire life trying to get an audition which is much tougher on life than rejection in Reality shows.
I think parents should learn to raise their children with a practical vision of the world and not like a "Frog in the Well". Parents should be their children's first critique and maybe the most brutal ones if required, this would gear their children to deal with the rest of the world.
When one has done this much homework and raised their children well enough to withstand the Real world, should one stand and cry foul when the reality shows are too harsh. And if someone has given their children the foundation I mentioned earlier, I am they wont be in a situation where they would need to cry foul.